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Mentervention 4.25: Make it known

Guys, it’s that time again….

What’s up with some of you? I think you expect women to read your minds. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: you need to be upfront!

Stop hiding your emotions. If you want to be with us, say it. If you are upset with us, express it. If you are hurting and need comfort, ask for it. Or better yet, let us comfort you! There is no shame in letting a woman you love (or simply care about) give you some TLC when you need it. That’s tender-loving-care, y’all.

Even more, if you miss us, love us, need us, think we’re beautiful, intelligent, funny, TELL US! There is absolutely no hurt in expressing those things to us verbally or through a letter. Honestly, you can’t go wrong by expressing how you feel.

When you hold things in, it’s detrimental to your relationships and moreso yourself. You know the saying, “if you don’t ask, you can’t receive?” That’s how life is. You can’t fix problems if you don’t lay them out of the table, you can’t overcome if you don’t come out with the issues.

In relationships, we understand you’re with us because you care about us. But that doesn’t mean you don’t need to tell us! Women enjoy hearing how proud you are of us or how great you think we are. We have egos just like you guys and sometimes they need to be fed!

More importantly, if you are harboring pent-up frustrations, we need to know it. You men can be so stoic. You guys put this immense pressure to provide on your shoulders, and in lieu of your own needs you try to accommodate ours.

Please make the distinction! We get it: you guys want to work hard to make sure we’re protected and comfortable, but if your job is getting at you or school is overwhelming or you don’t like that one thing we do that drives you up a wall, tell us (in the most courteous way possible).

Make it known guys. You are men, after all. Take the initiative to speak up, whether it be to vocalize problems or express love and affection.

We can’t read your minds!